If You’re So Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy?: How to turn career success into life success (英語) ペーパーバック – 2016/4/28
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What are the true determinants of a happy and fulfilling life?
Widely admired psychological researcher Rag Raghunathan sets out to find the answer, undertaking extensive research into the happiness of students, business people, stay-at-home-parents, lawyers, and artists, among others. From his research he reveals a crucial discovery: many of the psychological traits that lead to success ironically get in the way of happiness.
Forging a new way forward, Raghunathan shows how we can transform these key traits of success, namely the need to be loved, the need for importance and the need for control, and replace them with other behaviours, goals and values to improve our life-long levels of happiness.
“This book highlights how some of the very things that make us smart and successful can also undermine our happiness. It’s a practical, engaging read on how to lead a fulfilling life.”
-Adam Grant, author of Give and Take and Originals
“Raj’s book presents a clear perspective on what it takes to lead a life of happiness and fulfillment. What I like most about the book is that it proves, using rigourous science, something that I have long held: the recipe for a happy life is also one for a life of service and success. This is a book that everyone, and particularly the smart-and-successful, should read and assimilate.”
-John Mackey, co-CEO of Whole Foods Market
This book is a landmark contribution to the burgeoning literature on leading fuller, happier, more fulfilling lives. With a scholar’s sensibility, Raj brilliantly marshalls extensive research evidence that supports his simple yet profound prescriptions for better living. I have no doubt that this book will come to be regarded as a classic in the field; it will help change countless lives for the better, as Raj’s online course is already doing.
-Raj Sisodia, co-author of Everybody Matters and Conscious Capitalism
“Tell a man a joke and he’ll be happy for a moment. Give a man Raj's book, and he’ll be happy forever! While you are at it, get yourself a copy of this excellent, well-researched book. It will make you smarter and happier.
-Peter McGraw, Director of the Humor Research Lab and co-author of The Humor Code
"A compelling and highly profitable read. Get this book, mark it up with highlighters and practice, practice, practice. Your life WILL improve."
-Srikumar Rao, author of Happiness at Work, TED speaker and consultant.
"This is an empirically-grounded, practical, and fun-to-read book that will help you get the most out of your life and find the happiness you really want. A must-read for anyone searching for the true meaning of success."
-Kristin Neff, Ph.D., author of Self Compassion
Raghunathan gives you the tools you need to lead a more satisfying life. He roots his recommendations in good science, and then provides a wonderful set of tools to put you on the path to long-term path to happiness. Better still, even reading this book is a joy.
-Art Markman, Ph.D., author of Smart Thinking and Smart Change
“This book will help you keep the upbeat approach to life that will open the door to undreamed of possibilities. Definitely a keeper!”
-Barbara Oakley, Professor of Engineering, Oakland University, and co-instructor of the most popular MOOC ever—Learning How to Learn
"How important do I think it is for you to read this book? Let me just say that if you are smart and successful and yet feel that you aren’t as happy as you could—or want to—be, I wouldn’t just recommend that you read this book. I would say that you owe it to yourself to drop everything else you are doing and start reading the book now!"
-Marshall Goldsmith, CEO-coach and author of Triggers
From the Hardcover edition. --このテキストは、ハードカバー版に関連付けられています。
I'm sure the question on your mind is this: hey, if you're a psychologist already, did this book actually make YOU happier? The answer is yes, it did! Two caveats, though: Prof Raj gives a number of self-tests in the book so you can see exactly where you stand on the concepts he's discussing. It's necessary to actually take those self-tests yourself, not just go with a preconceived notion about yourself that might be wrong. And when Prof Raj discusses the exercises he recommends, don't just skip going and doing them on the website, thinking "I get this without doing the exercise," and turn to the next chapter. I can assure you that actually spending time completing the questionnaires and doing all the exercises is the key to becoming happier. It's all within your reach.
One final comment: how many of us have finished a self-help book and promised ourselves we will stick with the new insights we learned, only to discover a month or two later that we are no longer practicing those great new mental habits we learned about? SPOILER ALERT: Prof Raj has a chapter at the end of the book where he guides you on how to make your new learning permanent, in just a few minutes of personal reflection each day. Having finished Prof Raj's program over nine months ago, I can tell you that I still follow his prescription of daily reminders and that has made all the difference. Happy learning!
"If you're so smart, why aren't you happy?" is about much more than just momentary joy. If you're looking for something to spice up your life for a day or two, a wave of the wand so to speak, you'd find more luck at Trip Advisor or some Buzzfeed listicle about things to do on a rainy day.
This book is about how to seek long term life satisfaction, and to gain the most out of it, you have to put the most into it. You have to be willing to challenge parts of yourself that you might not like to look at too closely; you have to be willing to open yourself up to the possibility that some of the ideas and beliefs you held to be integral to the way you view the world...may be hurting you. Keep an open mind, try things out, and see where they take you--but if you don't, you'll find no value in this read.
This book teaches you how to readjust the glasses you put on when you look at the world, gives you a gentle tap of a reminder to some of the basics of life that feel like kindergarten. It reminds you of what's really important, and it does that by way of hard facts, research, anecdotes, and a dollop of charm.
11/10, highly recommend.