Slow Sex Secrets: Lessons from the Master Masseur (英語) ハードカバー – 2008/9/30
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Have you had great sex? Oh, you may think you have, at times eliciting vocal responses or squirms of seeming pleasure from your partner. And in comparison to your peers, your intimate moments may be a step above the curve. But according to author of Slow Sex Secrets: Lessons from the Master Masseur Adam Tokunaga, you haven't. Why? Because only he has had truly earthshattering sex, and because only he has unlocked the secrets to the kind of sex that even the ancient Indian masters of the Kama Sutra envy.
Reviewed by Kai-Ming Cha
“Good sex is the best way to make a woman even more beautiful,” says Adam Tokunaga in his book, Slow Sex Secrets, equal parts mating manual, pep-talk and bedroom boot-camp. “And as a man, it is your mission to flip the switch on your partner’s internal mechanism which brings out that beauty.” Japan’s self-professed sexpert and practiced tactician of the erotic massage suggests one simple thing that will recharge any couple’s sex life and bring out that inner beauty: Slow it down.
Tokunaga, who has his own sex school in Japan called “Adam,” offers a handful of techniques for making any willing man into a talented lover. His most sage advice–and the key to differentiate “slow” from “ordinary”–is to approach sex with patience. Tokunaga focuses on touch and trust while encouraging men to forgo the quickie–or “junk sex” as he describes it: “male-focused, orgasm-obsessed, 20-minute sex”–for the sake of their partner’s sexual satisfaction.
Slow Sex Secrets’s techniques are useful and immediately applicable, and Tokugawa’s knowledge of the female body shows that he’s intimately versed in the language of women. He’s at his best when demystifying the female psyche, directly connecting it with the female form. The book is largely for the uninitiated, and Tokugawa’s start-with-the-basics approach is geared more toward the Jonas brothers than Colin Farrell. But Slow Sex Secrets will help you unlock the secrets to the female anatomy. Read it: She’ll thank you."
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If you're are interesting in getting better at your love making skills and in particular lasting longer, ~$10 you'd spend on this book will be money well spent.
Echoing some other of the comments here, while this book has many imperfections - it has a few gems in it, that are definitely worth the investment. The book itself is very small and can be read in under 2 hours.
I think that perhaps since it was written by a Japanese author probably for the Japanese audience it adds to the odd wording despite the efforts of the translator to make it readable for the English-speaking reader. But don't throw the baby with the bath waters -- integrate the useful things you learn in this book and ignore the imperfections.
If you're interested in healthy sexuality and you bike please make sure to read Don't Let Your Bike Seat Ruin Your Sex Life: Ergonomic Bike Seats And Practical Pointers That Could Save Your Sex Life by yours truly.
I also found there to be quite a lot of boasting from Tokunaga: there is a fine line between establishing your credentials and egoistic bragging - and he definitely crosses that line several times.
Tokunaga hates what he calls "junk sex" - which is male orgasm obsessed, brief, and unsatisfying to the woman. Ok, I agree. But he repeats this at least 60 times in the text. It's unnecessary waste.
He describes himself having penetrative sex for, on average, 2 hours. But he doesn't say what he does during that time. He describes a simple breathing and kegel exercise to control the ejaculation, but gives no tips on integrating it into actual sex. And what about the hands, the tongue? At that point is it all just improv? He never says. After all, he recommends at least 30 minutes of loveplay focused solely on the woman, ideally more, so by that time maybe you are already "awash in a sea of pleasure". I don't know, that's just supposition.
To paraphrase his advice: Build your sexual energy with her with your hands, be aware of your love and desire for her as you touch her, forget about your own ejaculation (it will happen anyway), touch her softly and intelligently for a long time all over her body, enter her gently in a sitting sexual position, don't thrust and do breathing kegels to avoid early orgasm. Oh yes, a very good specific tip on foreplay: pull back the clitoral hood before touching the clitoris, and don't vary pressure or pace until she's almost climaxed.
After all, isn't that all you really want?