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Keep Your Life, Family and Career Intact While Living Abroad: What every expat needs to know (English Edition) Kindle版
The challenges of living and working in a foreign country don't begin and end with culture shock.
Whether you're doing international business or teaching in foreign places, if you're moving to another part of the world, you need to prepare yourself for the unique pressures, anxieties and personal and family problems common to all expatriates, which are often difficult to anticipate and a challenge to overcome, including:
- Culture shock: what is it really?
- Long-distance relationships with friends and family
- Affairs and other marriage-stressors
- Raising third culture kids
- Being single overseas
- Business travel booby-traps
- Expatriate burnout
- The unforeseen trials of reverse culture shock
- ...and much, much more
On the principle that "awareness is half the cure," Dr. Tsang-Feign identifies and explains most of the common personal, relationship and family problems encountered by people living abroad: from the initial culture shock to the special joys and pitfalls of the expatriate experience, to the challenges of re-entering your own native country.
This expanded new edition contains new information on expatriate relationships and marriage, third culture kids, and a thorough guide to finding help abroad.
"The essential survival guide. Must reading for anyone living abroad."
Louis Kraar, Senior Editor, Fortune
"In an easy-to-read, jargon-free book Cathy Tsang-Feign helps confront problems unique to the expatriate experience."
South China Morning Post
"The best survival manual I've come across. If you live overseas or are going to, read this and keep it beside your bed."
Fred Schneiter, author of Getting Along with the Chinese
- ASIN : B00FB35GDM
- 出版社 : Top Floor Books; 第3版 (2013/9/19)
- 発売日 : 2013/9/19
- 言語 : 英語
- ファイルサイズ : 4321 KB
- Text-to-Speech（テキスト読み上げ機能） : 有効
- X-Ray : 有効にされていません
- Word Wise : 有効
- 本の長さ : 230ページ
"There is a lot of romance associated with living abroad. It is often seen as a life of glamour, of white suits and high tea on palm-shaded verandas, chauffeurs and servants and dinners with diplomats, with no problems in store other than a touch of culture shock." (Foreword)
Culture Shock, Dr. Tsang-Feign says is "better defined as acculturation, [...] a process which can last from six months to more than a year." The process is broken up into four easy-to-understand steps:
Elation - "When first in a foreign country, one finds it quite stimulating that most things are so unlike back home."
Resistance - "Frequent comparisons between home and the host country make everything back home seem so much better."
Transformation - "Individuals feel more familiar with the environment and begin to see the good side of the host country."
Integration - "Cultural barriers are bridged."
Having lived abroad for many years, both as a child and as an adult, I found this theory to be completely accurate. In my experience I have found some countries easier to settle into than others, but the overall process is the same, just slower or faster.
This book is extremely insightful; it explains theories, shows real life examples and offers helpful advice and tips. I certainly wish I'd read it twenty years ago! However, I know that I can dip back in it as and when I need to. The book covers and broad range of topics, such as: 'Problems of Moving', 'Third Culture Kids', 'Stress at Work and Home' and 'All Alone and Far From Home'. I cannot recommend this book more for people living, or thinking about, living abroad.
Cathy Tsang-Feign’s excellent “Living Abroad: What every expat needs to know” does just that. Using examples inspired by her work as a family therapists, Tsang-Feign prepares readers for all of the potential but rarely discussed pitfalls of packing up your life and moving to a new home abroad for an extended stay.
You won’t find any technical jargon or abstract theories in this book. The author uses a simple spare style that’s easy to read and understand. She illustrates each point with stories of people who have experienced upsets abroad and how they could better deal with their problems.
The book covers a full range of difficulties expatriates could face, from marriage problems, to work stress, to dealing with an overload of visitors. She guides readers through the process of culture shock and even the unexpected trauma of trying to decide when to move back home. But while the book deals with problems, the tone is always positive and helpful.
“Living Abroad: What every expat needs to know” is the kind of book I would recommend to any friend who is preparing for an extended overseas assignment. It might not prevent all the problems they might face, but it would make those problems easier to deal with.
Living Abroad: What every expat needs to know
Yes, the luxury lifestyle abroad was enticing and we both loved it. We especially loved the vacations, having a maid, paid housing, paid flights, and a great salary.
Yet, after 10 years of it, I felt something was missing. It felt sterile and bland. I missed things back home such as birthdays, my Dad's retirement party, and holidays. I think I was closer to my parents though than my husband. I missed nature and community, the seasons, etc.
People change. My values changed from when I left home as originally I sought to pay off college loans, travel, and "see the world." Friends that I made abroad were always leaving for greener pastures and even the international vacations lost their luster. I grew depressed and had grown incredibly homesick. The luxury lifestyle wasn't as important anymore. At times, I felt very invisible and that my life revolved around my husband and work. My friends were from work, I worked out at the gym at work and did a lot of shopping and eating out. I agree with Ms. Tsang-Feign in that I lost my identity. I questioned if this was really who I was anymore.
Ms. Tsang-Feign writes about, "burnout," in her book I agree that burnout "is a signal that something is wrong," but for me, it was more than breaking up routine or taking a vacation to fix it. This was a deeper problem that went right down to the core of me, to my values and my husband's. We were going in two different directions because of it and started wanting different things. We had grown apart and had less and less in common. It was sad really.
My husband always told me, "Jen, you can be happy anywhere. That is on you." I am not sure about that anymore. I think you can for a while but things do change. I never would have thought location to be a deal-breaker for it became one.
After moving to Qatar, I stayed four more years to make sure I was making the right decision and didn't want to be rash. My husband said I could go home, but I knew if I went home our marriage wouldn't survive. I was right. The decision was excruciating, as it was either my marriage or my health (mentally, emotionally, and physically).
After my 13th year, I moved back home to rural upstate New York and my husband choose to stay abroad.
My parents were getting elderly and I was glad to be around nature again and with my old community. While in NY, my husband and I tried a long-distance relationship for a couple of years but ended up divorcing. He now bought a house in the Philippines, is teaching there, and is happy.
Back home again, I began to feel more grounded and started flourishing again. I feel like my old self again.
I think living abroad does have many wonderful advantages and experiences. I changed in many good ways and I don't regret a day. I've become so much more open-minded, appreciative of others (and of my own country), and appreciative of all places I've seen and the people I met. It wasn't an easy decision to return home, but in the end, I was glad I did. My husband and I didn't have kids so I know that made the decision much easier.