How to Raise a Happy Child (and Be Happy Too): Simply Genius Parenting Strategies That Work (英語) ペーパーバック – 2013/1/12
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This book will make you feel like a parenting pro. You will learn exactly how to bring out the best in you and your child ... every day.
Crawl inside the mind of kid whisperer, Heather Criswell, and see how she discovered (over 25 years and 30,000 children) what works with every child, in every situation, every time. When you put these simple strategies into action in your own life, raising amazing children will suddenly feel so much easier and more fun than you ever imagined.
In this groundbreaking book (with included "how-to" videos), you will learn simply genius strategies to get the results you desire with your child - without using the word "no" or giving time-outs, punishments, or rewards. You will be a parenting success with bedtime, manners, homework, sharing, mealtime, back-talking, disrespect, fighting, grades, lying, and so much more.
You will have an opportunity to question your parenting assumptions and learn, step-by-step, refreshing new techniques to get the results you want. You will discover how to raise capable, self-reliant, truly happy kids in a stress-free environment.
This is no ordinary "how to" parenting book. It shines a light on an inspiring new approach for today's parents.
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• Defining your success as a parent
• Defining your goals as a parent
• Defining happiness for you—and your child
• Choosing the energy you bring to any situation with your child and beyond
• Honoring your feelings first and then your child’s
• Honoring every choice your child makes
• Reminding your child of their greatness … always
What also makes the book effective and very readable is co-author Taryn Voget’s skills at taking the strategies of an expert and breaking them down into manageable chunks that the reader can quickly replicate and use. To that point, I can personally say that the one of the biggest challenges of parenting for me was (and still is) not necessarily knowing what to say to my kids but HOW to say it. In that context "How to Raise a Happy Child" is an absolute gold mine with many examples of Heather’s phrasing and use of indirect language all which can be used with not only your children but everyone else in your life. The very last section of the book where Criswell offers solutions to 20 of the stickiest, most problematic and even nightmarish parent-kid scenarios is worth the book’s weight in gold. I wish I’d had this book 20 years ago. Highest possible recommendation.
And then you'll meet a person who just seems to be a natural, someone who can look at a kid and connect with them on a level that most people cannot. The book How to Raise a Happy Child (and Be Happy Too) climbs into the mind of a "kid whisperer" and lets you see just how one of these naturals think.
Taryn Voget is the co-founder of the Everyday Genius Institute and the author of six different books on strategies of genius - which led her to want to work with the Kid Whisperer. Heather Criswell is a kid whisperer, a woman who thinks on another level completely when it comes to raising children. With 25 years experience working with kids (more than 30,000 of them!) she uses this book to share her unique parenting approach and wisdom. Together, these two women put together a parenting manual like no other; to let you question your parenting abilities, learn new techniques, and discover how to raise happy children.
How to Raise a Happy Child (and Be Happy Too) offers step-by-step scenarios and techniques to getting the results you want with your child - without using the word "no" or giving time-outs, punishments, or rewards. It's a whole new spin on parenting, with successful tips for bedtime, manners, sharing, fighting, lying, temper tantrums, and a whole lot more!
What I found most helpful was a scenario in the book that lays out sibling fighting. With an argument between two children, and a race to tell Momma who is at fault, what would you do? Instead of taking sides, doling out a punishment, or simply ignoring the bickering, this book gives you a detailed way for you to guide your children into working things out on their own. Something that I really want to try doing with my kids, since sibling rivalry is at it's highest lately.
Once I read that quote in the introduction of How to Raise a Happy Child, I knew I was going to love this book. I have a 3 year old, so my parenting abilities are being tested on a daily, if not hourly basis. My daughter is creative, stubborn, brilliant, bossy, and a little fireball. She has so many wonderful qualities, and I am constantly amazed at how much she is learning, absorbing, and imitating these days… it’s one of the most rewarding parts of being a parent. She also does some not-so-cute things like screaming when she is upset, throwing toys if she’s really upset, and disobeying me when we’re in public.
I knew early on that I didn't want to spank my child. I think every parent is entitled to their own judgement, but it never made sense to me to use physical force against a young child. My sort of reasoning was if I don’t hit an adult for doing something that upsets me, why should I hit a defenseless child? However, I do believe love, respect and understanding can go a long way to raising a well adjusted child… even if I don’t always know how to do it. That’s why I am so happy I found the book, How to Raise a Happy Child.
When I read on the cover of the book that I could learn how to get the results I desired without using the word “no”, giving time-outs, punishing or rewarding her, it piqued my interest, to say the least. Referring back to the Buddha quote, I wholeheartedly agree with the book’s approach on how to view adult and child relationships, specifically how children are viewed.
The book is easy to navigate, if you’re just looking for an answer to a specific problem, but it is also a great read, if you want to sit down and read the whole thing. The contents include:
Decide who you are as a Parent
Discover the 5 ingredients for parenting success
Put Happiness into action
Feel like a parenting pro with these proven scripts
Throughout the book are real-life scenarios that Heather (the kid whisperer) encountered during her 20 years, working with over 300,000 kids. Some of the stories are hilarious, some sad, some inspiring. She also talks about lessons she has learned during the entire process. One of the most valuable pieces of information I read in the book, was to correct my reactions, instead of trying to control my daughter’s. Whether you are aware of it or not, we all have a kind of energy and mood when we are addressing our children (or anyone). When we get angry, the tone we use, the words we choose… all of those things impact our children’s reaction, and how they will react in future situations. We are teaching our children how to behave by the way we behave.
There are hundreds of easy tips like the one above, that can change your relationship with your child, and get the desired behavior out of them. I love this approach because it is really considering the best interest of the child, while treating them with respect, love and kindness.
If you are pregnant, have a toddler, or a 17-year-old kid, How to Raise a Happy Child is a great investment to improve your relationship with your kids. The book also comes with step-by-step techniques and scripts on video to help you, if you are a visual learner.