Betrayal of the Child: A Father's Guide to the Courts, Divorce, Custody and Children's Rights (英語) ペーパーバック – 2001/5
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"Betrayal of the Child" is Stewart Rein's explosive new book on children's rights, divorce, custody, and fatherlessness. It is, perhaps, the most comprehensive book on the market. It searches out the historical reasons for our present irrational and injust approach to deciding vitally important children's rights issues, cutting across the various disciplines, analyzing cause and effect. The book is loaded with practical information for fathers, including a Father's Guide to the Courts, cases, laws, abduction information, case analysis, expert evidence and shared parenting stategies. It is also a hard hitting, no drawn punches book of rather severe social, legal, and psychological criticism in which Rein lays to rest the old clichued thinking on "maternal attachment" made popular by John Bowlby-explaining that from the child's perspective there exists a "triad" within the family nexus, consisting of dual father-mother-child dyads.
Never before has society been faced with such a challenge-deciding what principles should guide lawmakers, parents and the courts in protecting the rights and needs of children involved in divorce and custody cases. Tens of millions of children are being deprived of their human and psychological rights to treasured relationships with male parents. Why? How can fathers fight for justice? "Betrayal of the Child", written with compassion and insight, refutes "The Best Interests of the Child" (Freud, Solnit & Goldstein) single parent theology and concludes that only two parents can serve the best interests of children.
One in every two men will face these issues at some point in their lives. However, most are clueless and those that are not clueless, don't seem to care. Even parents (yes, both Moms and Dads) with children who are boys, don't seem to understand just what kind of a position these boys can be in as grown men. How we got here is a sad story of misunderstandings, misbelieves, poor science, poor deduction, and clouded views, but the fact that we are still here despite significant and continually mounting evidence, is truly a shame and one of the biggest, yet "secret" failures, of our society.
If you do not read this book for yourself then read it for your son or any boy that you know will some day be a father.
Despite the fact that his ex is lying about where his child support is going (luckily we have proof), her moving out of state (illegal in this state), changing his daughter's last name, refusing to let her call him "daddy" and the fact that he hasn't seen her in months (those are just the the tip of the iceburg)... there is that doubt. Because she is "The Mother".
It seems that unless a woman is on drugs or a mental institution (actually in a hospital, because meds, or refusal to take them, isn't enough apparently) the father is at the mercy of the mother's every bad day.
So we go, to possibly spend thousands of dollars, just to make the messed up court system acknowledge a beautiful, bright, six year old girl's right to know her father, any new siblings, and her father's extended family. Maybe.
And if this book seems a little "pro-man", and therefor "anti-woman", so be it. There are plenty of "empowering" books for women, why not men?