Albert Ellis and the Unhappy Golfer: A critique of the simplistic ABC model of REBT ペーパーバック – 2019/7/1
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This book is about two characters, both of whom are psychologically damaged:The first is a man (whose age we do not know), who went out ‘yesterday’ to play a game of golf with some peers (about whom we know nothing), and his peers showed that they did not like him. Today he is terribly unhappy. We shall call this man “the unhappy golfer”.The second character is a man (whose age we do know), who was seriously neglected as a child, and virtually abandoned at times, by his mother and father. (His winning formula in life became this: Deny that I was hurt. Deny that I had any needs. Become detached from my feelings. Become an Extreme Stoic. Deny that I can be harmed. Deny that anybody can hurt me [apart from a baseball bat or a brick on the head].) We shall call this man what his mother and father called him: Albert Ellis; and add the prefix, Doctor; because he gained a doctorate in clinical psychology.The unhappy golfer is in Dr Albert Ellis’s office, in New York City, somewhere around the end of the 1950’s. He tells Dr Ellis that he feels terribly unhappy about being rejected by his golfing peers, and Dr Ellis tells him: This is something you are doing to yourself!~~~This book consists of five parts:Part 3 is a critical analysis, line by line, of the case study of the unhappy golfer, as presented by Albert Ellis. The case study appeared in Albert Ellis’s 1962 book, Reason and Emotion in Psychotherapy. I have numbered each line of the dialogue between Ellis and the unhappy golfer, and commented upon the errors committed by Ellis in dealing with this unhappy man. Ellis interpreted the golfer’s problem, using his simple ABC model, and concluded that nothing but a B (or a belief – in the golfer’s head) could have caused him to feel terribly unhappy about his peers not liking him. I present a critical rejection of that perspective.In Part 2, I move up into ‘helicopter view’, up above the action, and sketch out the broad brush strokes of the encounter between Ellis and the unhappy golfer. And I add a few more critical comments upon Ellis’s errors.Then in Part 4, I take my analysis beyond the simple ABC model, into a world in which the unhappy golfer has a body, and not just a mind on legs; in which he has emotional needs for social connection; and in which there are multiple potential sources of his terrible unhappiness.Part 5 is my overall conclusion.The book is written in an accessible style, with most of the specialist knowledge stored in appendices at the back of the book, to avoid cluttering the text. And the book is based on my 25 year engagement with REBT; and my 12 years of critical analysis of REBT theory. Plus my study of more than 15 alternative ways of thinking about human emotions, and disturbed individuals.~~~If you study this book carefully, you will develop a reasonably sound, but basic, understanding of the golfer’s ‘personality adaptation(s)’; his ‘ego states’, and how he might move between them; his ‘attachment style’ (secure or insecure; avoidant or clingy). You will also learn:- Eight ways that the unhappy golfer could have reframed his experience of peer rejection, to feel significantly less unhappy; without denying his existence as an emotional being, who has social-emotional needs; - How the unhappy golfer could have managed his mind better, including the use of critical thinking; and: - How to understand his terrible unhappiness; and how to manage grief and depression, using diet, exercise, sleep, self-talk, and much more besides.If you want to move beyond the simple, simplistic – dehumanizing – ABC model of REBT, then this book will provide you with the tools to do so.