After realising that ‘commitment phobia’ had another name: ‘relationship anxiety’, I did a lot of research, found this book and thought I’d give it a go. I’m so so glad I did.
In a very calm and logical manner, this book does exactly what it says and takes you through the various areas of where resistance to commitment comes from. Reading it was such a relief and I recognised myself again and again in these pages.
Assuming you want to go down the Choosing a life partner route, it is understandably a pretty terrifying decision especially if you’ve been burnt a few times.
I don’t think we as a society talk about relationships enough or even have the collective knowledge about what the ingredients are to a successful partnership. Many of my parents generation got married very young before they really knew themselves and were either amazingly lucky in marrying someone they were well suited to, or stuck it out with varying degrees of success… or had to rethink.
Reading this book I realised that there were several very understandable reasons from my own experience growing up that were preventing me from making good choices of partners. I also realised I had a massive fear of confrontation which meant I would turn myself into ‘the ideal partner’ and then realise I’d got myself into an untenable situation playing a part I couldn’t keep up and run for the hills.
With a clearer idea of what was at play, I decided to see a therapist for a bit and it has been life changing. Quite a lot of reviews say that this book doesn’t provide solutions.I would argue that it never promised to and how could it?? that would be a set of encyclopaedias!
Stephen is really good at making you question your behaviour, rootle out what is really behind it and take responsibility. If you can figure that out on your own great, otherwise, as he frequently suggests, go and see a therapist. It is obviously so much more helpful to present to a therapist with an idea of what might be at the source of your problem.
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Gina
Brilliant brilliant book
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KP
An eye opener..
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Lynsey Steel
Clear, comprehensive, and uplifting
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marymary
Nice work
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Bubbles
It’s a No!
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