新ルールズ―幸せな愛と結婚のための法則 (ワニ文庫) [文庫]

"The Rules" helped single women find their man. Now you've found the perfect partner "Rules" advice will ensure you manage your man and stay happy, together. "Happy ever after" does exist, you just have to work a little to make it happen. This guide reveals the new Rules for the no-longer single woman. Advice on every aspect of marriage helps readers get from white wedding to golden anniversary. Topics include: say what you mean, but don't say it mean; don't find fault with things you knew about when you married him; keep your own interests - have a life!; and don't ask single friends for marital advice. --このテキストは、絶版本またはこのタイトルには設定されていない版型に関連付けられています。

彼が幸せだと感じることを実行しましょう。そうすれば彼は一生あなたと一緒にいたいと思い、幸せな日々が送れます。しかし、その精神的努力は二人でするものではありません。あなた一人が実行するのです。なぜなら、男性と女性は違う生き物であり、それが現実だからです。世界的ベストセラーとなった待望の第3弾。

真実の愛を育むために、愛にあふれた二人でいたい。なのに思いが伝わらず、すれ違うことも…。でも、悩むのも今日まで。二人がかならず幸福になれる「新しい法則」を紹介。 --このテキストは、絶版本またはこのタイトルには設定されていない版型に関連付けられています。

According to authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, the rules of a happy marriage are often very different from the rules a single woman should follow in order to get hitched in the first place. In their phenomenally successful dating guide, The Rules, Fein and Schneider urged single women to adopt a strategy of denial--don't call him, don't be too available, don't sleep with him early on. In marriage, however, it seems the rules have drastically changed. He wants sex? Give it to him. He doesn't want to talk? So be it. He wants to go to the game and you don't? Shut up and go. As Schneider stated in a promotional TV interview, "It's not about being right--it's about what works."

If you operate on the premise that most of the emotional work in a marriage is the responsibility of the woman, and that any marriage is preferable to no marriage at all, then this book is for you. "The fact is, to be happily married, a woman sometimes needs to treat her husband like a client or customer whom they want to keep happy (let him be right)," the authors write. "You're probably thinking, 'Why can't it be equal?' Why doesn't he have to do all the things you're suggesting, like 'Don't say the first mean word or make up first?' Our answer is because that is the way it is." For women who work hard in demanding jobs and then come home to manage children and a household, learning that they should completely put aside their needs, yet "continue to be a creature like any other," will not only come as a shock, but as an insult as well.

To be fair, some of the 43 rules in the book are the kind of useful common sense that would benefit any partnership. Untold numbers of marriage experts have been dishing out this kind of advice for years--say what you mean but don't say it meanly, be supportive, and don't nag. Fortunately, if lowering your expectations and letting your hubby win (Rules 5 and 9) don't work, the book also includes rules for divorce and second marriages. --Marianne Painter
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For faithful followers of the The Rules, the authors of that wildly popular dating manual now provide a lifelong "maintenance" plan that is, more rules on how to hang onto husbands once they've been nabbed. Rule 36 ("It's easier to stay married than to get married") sums up their strategy. But many women will wonder about the payoff in marriage as depicted here, which for women involves being someone else's cheerleader for life, expecting neither sympathy nor applause for doing the chores and not forcing one's husband to talk, on the premise that men are from Mars. Even common-sense advice such as keep up your own interests and give him time alone when he comes home sounds callow in Fein and Schneider's hands. At least they don't pretend there's anything new in these "time-tested" rules. Other familiar fare includes scheduling a date night and reminders not to nag or to try to be a superwoman. Some of the original rules, like the one about having "long hair," are included. Others may be unpleasant for some readers: do things you don't want to do, like go to football games or see his family. The rules are clear on the subject of fidelity: the marriage is over if the husband cheats even once. Perhaps because of the disclosure of coauthor Fein's recent divorce, the book also covers the dos and don'ts of divorce have dignity and date ASAP and second marriages. (June) Forecast: Despite its arguably retrograde stance, this guide is as golden as a wedding band. The media has already begun to roll in though much has been related to Fein's divorce. But "Rules girls" will still flock to the author tour venues in five cities, and countless brides or brides-to-be will receive the book as a gift, serious or otherwise.

Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

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Following the phenomenal success of their first two books the authors received thousands of letters from readers asking how to keep their marriages alive and vibrant. In response, the authors created "The Rules for Marriage" which offers women practical advice on many aspects of marriage.
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Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider are authorities on love and human relationships. They lecture regularly and have coached millions of women worldwide. --このテキストは、絶版本またはこのタイトルには設定されていない版型に関連付けられています。

ファイン,エレン
1957年生まれ。ニューヨーク在住。「ルールズ・ホットライン」をもち、月刊ニューズレターを発行。全米で25のサポート団体をもち、恋愛カウンセリング、『ルールズ』恋愛相談活動を行っている。二児の母

シュナイダー,シェリー
1959年生まれ。ニュージャージー在住。雑誌ライター。恋愛経験をもとにカウンセリングを行っている。一児の母

田村 明子
1962年盛岡市生まれ。翻訳家。フリーランスライター。77年に留学のため渡米し、現在まで米国在住。91年、読売「女性ヒューマン・ドキュメンタリー大賞」入選(本データはこの書籍が刊行された当時に掲載されていたものです)